Telling the truth of one's life takes courage. Learning to identify the core that keeps you strong is similar to the cyclist or the dancer. Falling isn't an option, it's a necessity. For it is there that we identify what works and what doesn't work.
On the dance floor the toughest thing to learn is to stabilize your own body while maintaining poise, so that you are not a drag on your partner. It may appear that women hold onto the arms and shoulders of their partners, but in reality they should have such a sense of their own dance that they move independently of their partners while stepping in unison with them.
Writing memoir or narrative nonfiction or creative nonfiction, whatever the current buzzword is for the genre can be daunting. The writer must digg in, find strength to expose the messiness of a life lived. Catholics go to confession to be absolved from their transgressions. Writers go to the page. And it is there that the balancing act begins with one letter, one word, one paragraph, until the story is told, the music ends, the bike stops moving.